"To the outside world we all grow old. But not to brothers and sisters. We know each other as we always were. We know each other's hearts. We share private family jokes. We remember family feuds and secrets, family griefs and joys. We live outside the touch of time." -Clara Ortega
When I was
a kid I used to be so embarrassed by the fact that I had three siblings. I mean when you are a teenager and your Mother is picking you up at school in a van full of young kids..... that was not always the "coolest" of situations. Plus, being the oldest of four children also had it's unwanted responsibilities. I remember changing lots of diapers and helping mom with things around the house. Not all of it was hard or taxing...but the fact that I had to stop playing with friends to babysit one of my brothers or sister was sometimes more than I could handle. I just wanted to go back to the days of being an only child or a "smaller" family. I often heard that we could not go here or there because there were too many of us and it would cost too much. It was always mortifying to go to a restaurant and tell the hostess that we needed six seats and likely a high chair! Geesh...always such a circus and production. However over the years I have shredded my immature feelings about a big family and have embraced it even more.
One of the most fun things about having so many siblings is discovering who you are most compatible with. As we each grew up in the house...it was obvious who was similar to who. Joe and Lynn were very similar in that they had such compassion towards others, excelled well in school and in athletics. They always had tons of friends and never had the personalities of stress or anxiety. Now Mike and I on the other hand were the opposite. Although Mike was much smarter and athletically gifted than I was .....we always had the same demeanor. We both tended to dramatize our lives and we made it a habit to question and ponder the bigger picture. We also had the most common sense out of the four of us. I think we could just about adapt to any situation if need be.....in fact Dad used to say that if we were all four trapped on an island....Mike and I would survive because we had the wits to...Joe and Lynn...well..they would struggle! LOL!
Mike has and continues to amaze me constantly. His zeal and love for sports is something I have long admired. Ask him anything about anyone and he knows the answer. He is also a human GPS system.....he can go anywhere once and will remember how to get there forever! He is often full of crap and tends to love anything that everyone else hates. I love that about him and it is so predictable at times it is almost comical. Mike was by far the quietest child growing up....and clearly I now know why. He was an observer....if he ever needed anything he had three older siblings to do it for him. But he also had the upper hand in so many ways. By being the youngest he discovered early on what to do and what not to do to stay out of trouble. In fact....I don't ever recall a time that Mike got punished. The rest of us.....well...let's just say that we "did our time".
Today Mike is all grown up and doing very well. In fact...I always tell people that Mike is living the life we all should at 25. He lives in a huge city with a bunch of his buddies. He has a great job and travels often. He is so much fun to hang out with as well. I love spending time with him at ASU football games and when it comes to taking sides on most issues....he usually sides with me! Sometimes I am amazed how stinking smart he is and wonder where does he store all of that knowledge? Not to mention that has the best sense of humor....but you have to look for it!I look forward to seeing how Mike evolves in the next few years. He says he would like to go back to school to be a professor. I can definitely see him in that role. Students would be drawn to him and I think he has natural gift for helping and teaching others. He swears he is never going to get married or at least wait until he is 45. I beg to differ big time. I am convinced that some girl is going to come along and knock his socks off. However this girl has to be someone who can handle his wit, tolerate his passion for sports and love to watch all of his favorite TV shows (and put up with a not so clean car at times). I can tell you that she is around...and I might have already met her too! In the mean time, I will enjoy watching Mike embrace being a bachelor and continue to listen to his crazy stories.
I love you Mike!
JAR
